Thank you

This project is taking a break, at least for now, perhaps for good. Thank you to the dozens of people in multiple countries who spoke so openly about some of the most traumatic, transformative events in their lives. This project began in late 2011 after I found that people like myself who had survived a suicide attempt had been effectively ignored, with no national organizations, communities or resources aside from a handful of local support groups. I set out to find where we were, who we were and why. I also wanted to prove to others out there: You are not alone.

The lessons I’ve learned are obvious: Suicidal thinking can happen to the best of us, and it is not a choice. It is not bad behavior, and it is not a lack of discipline. In fact, many of us have put in enormous effort to be “fine,” to achieve and succeed despite that harsh part of ourselves that insists on seeing everything as failure.

Much has changed since this project began, as sister project Attemptsurvivors.com has shown. But far more needs to be done. People continue to ask about suicidal thoughts and actions, “Why would you want to do that to yourself?” What a shocking and fundamental misunderstanding. I believe the question, as with any potentially fatal health issue, should be, “Why is this happening to the people we love?”

People also ask what we can do to stop suicides. I would say this: We tell the public, on a far more vast scale than this project, that suicidal thinking can happen to any of us, and that seeking help and support will not result in punishment.

Our challenge is in making sure the second part of that statement is true.

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5 thoughts on “Thank you

  1. Cara, thank you for your boundless energy, your inquisitive mind, and your indomitable spirit. In the years since you started the blog, the difficult conversation surrounding suicide has grown from hushed whispers to a movement that hopefully will never be silenced again. You’ve engaged the everyman and the professional alike so that we can work together to end stigma and discrimination, and ultimately, save lives. THANK YOU!

  2. Dear Cara, I recently read your Guardian newspaper article (in the UK) : thanks so very much for that and this website – I wish you all the very best. Kind regards from David.

  3. I’m discovering this site about a month after you’ve decided to take a break. Funny, because you started it a month after I ‘came out’ about my suicide attempts in September 2011. After reading just a few of the posts here I must thank you for this ressource. I think sharing our stories is essential to moving on, accepting the past, and better understanding and redefining ourselves. Best of luck to you!

  4. Hi
    first thank you for….everything as far as I can tell. Second, is this site shutting down, is someone else going to monitor it….?

  5. The truth of the matter ALL people have a mental illness – called humanity. All people do stupid things in their lives, and all people will go through difficult times. Some may need the help of anti-depressants others don’t. Just because a person is not on drugs doesn’t mean they’re not a narcissistic, sociopath. Or maybe a drunk, maybe a child abuser, or a spouse abuser. Maybe a player with std’s, maybe you had a car accident and got brain damage, maybe a pathological liar. Name one person on the planet left who is “normal”. Society needs to stop talking about “mental illness”, putting people in 2 categories “normal and mental” and realize everyoneeeeeee is mental and all will need mental help in some capacity at some point in our lives. The only people labeling suicide survivors are the arrogant tiny few “normal” people who think they’re so special who think they have the right to mentally judge harshly. If you can’t look at Robin Williams and not feel anything but love for the poor soul they maybe you have a mental illness called not caring for people who are hurting. I have friends who have attempted suicide and survived and had nothing but hatred from their families. They get scorned, judged and had their children taken from them. If you’re suicidal and survive – you will have consequences. Life long consequences. Memories that will never leave you and will hurt you for the rest of your existence. Statistics report that the vast majority of suicides are among the elderly. People may think they have it ‘together’ now, but just wait till you’re old and sick and struggling. Life will be a hard pill to choke on.

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